In all forms of relating, people can be divided into three main categories: Givers, Takers and Matchers. Apparently, according to Adam Grant, the ones who have the highest success rates in terms of establishing happy long-term relationships are also the ones with the highest number of failed relationships. Continue reading
Learning to trust again after you have suffered deep betrayal or cheating in love can be very tricky. One reason for this is the feeling of confusion after you find out that what you thought was real was a complete and utter sham – counterfeit love… You dreamed of True Love, got too close to the sun… You crashed and now you’re wondering if your wings will ever grow back out again. The fear of experiencing this kind of pain again could make it tempting for you to isolate yourself.
There is a way to start trusting again but the truth is that love will never be a risk-free venture. The best you can do is take your time in getting to know someone new before you go giving your heart away. In fact, make sure you know all of his friends and his family too! Leave no stone unturned to make sure he is worthy of your affection. In the end you will have to take a leap of faith but it’s up to you how big a leap. Do you really need to attempt the Grand Canyon and possibly end up with someone who was after your bank account, your daughter or a Visa from your country of birth? Continue reading
Have you ever started a relationship with someone that you connected with at a very deep level almost instantly? You meet a few times, have a few laughs and then slowly the misunderstandings start creeping in. In spite of the deep connection, you realise that your communication styles are very different from each other, and perhaps that your expectations also differ quite a lot.
To the person most in tune with his or her feelings and most transparent in his or her communication, it is easy to feel as if a deep emotional connection should lead to deep communication. Generally speaking, the expectation is that the more emotionally attuned person would be female but I have been doing relationship readings for long enough to know that this is not always the case – we could have a woman acting more as the Knight of Swords and a man as the Queen of Cups, for instance.
If you have experienced frustration in communicating with someone who doesn’t seem to ‘get’ you or if there has been a complete break-down due to your different communication styles, the Tarot can help you make head or tales of where and why the glitch occurred. Continue reading
You are finally with the One who makes your heart sing. One or both of you recall past lives together and you both have a strong sense of a mission to fulfil together. On some level you are aware that coming together is part of your life purpose and Divine Service. Even with all this inner knowing you sometimes doubt the connection. Everyday mundane stuff gets in the way and you start seeing the dirty socks he left on the bedroom floor (again!) rather than the extraordinary life force emanating from his Starseed eyes.
This is when you ask a friend to read on your joint Starseed Life Purpose. Yes, you read that right – you can call a friend! Look, even Jesus needed John the Baptist to confirm his mission. Yes, he knew who he was and why he was here but no man, woman or Starseed is an island to him- or herself. We are all created to be interdependent and to confirm, support and cheer each other on. We are family and take great pleasure in helping each other grow.
This is a reading I’m doing for a wonderfully magickal friend of mine. She knows she and her husband are both Starseeds and that they have journeyed many life times together on Earth as well as in other places and even other Universes. Yet the mist of 3D gets in the way of a clear understanding of their joint mission, so I’m using my Sirian Starseed Tarot to help her clear the confusion a bit.
Going into this reading, I already know that she has a connection with Luxor in Ancient Egypt. When she told me, Spirit instantly made aware that she had served as a High Priestess of Sekhmet. As you will see in the sample reading below, the Tarot confirms this in the portion of the reading that speaks of the joint past life that is now being highlighted.
1. Soul Contract/Purpose for coming together in this lifetime. My friend and her husband have a contract to excel in science in this lifetime with the 6 of Orbs (Swords) here. In the background of this first card, I spy Metatron’s cube (Merkaba) a sign that the mission is to transcend into 5D science and the science of Light Bodies for healing and manifestation. Coincidentally, she was recently made aware of the Merkaba for the first time recently in meditation.
2. Her mission. The 4 of Orbs (Swords) here tells me that every time my friend meditates, she channels messages from higher planes. She does not have to reach with her mind – it just comes to her.
3. His mission. The Knight of Orbs (Swords) is a sign that he is here to protect the Vessel (my friend) and that though his mission is also one of Truth, he will go questing and doing more research in addition to being his wife’s guardian.
4. Her current challenge. The 9 of Orbs (Swords) shows me that my friend needs to ground as she could easily go into overwhelm with all the information that is currently coming through.
5. His current challenge. The 3 of Flames (Wands) tells me his challenge is to be a pioneer within his chosen field of science.
6. Joint current challenge. To complete their studies and to connect with other Starseeds online.
7-11. Past life theme that has bearing on the current situation. This tells me of a time when this lovely couple was involved in spiritual teaching and service to the Goddess Sekhmet in Luxor, Egypt. At the bottom right is a picture of my friend worshipping in front of a statue of Sekhmet! Her husband was her teacher. He was older and passed on many years before she did. The contract they had was for him to do this to foster a sense of independence in his beloved student. She excelled in every way imaginable.
Merry Christmas, Love Doves!
I sometimes get people asking for a reading if the person they are with is any good for them. The reason for asking this question in the first place is obviously that they will have noticed one or more red flags, signs of disrespect etc, so in 99.9 % of all these types of situations I would say chances are he is not good for you. This is your gut telling you to get out and you would do well to listen.
However, there can be many different back stories when people come to me with a question along the lines of ‘Should I stay or should I go?’ and sometimes you know the other person is not a bad person but together you have created a rift that you don’t know how to repair or if it ever can be repaired.
That’s when you may want a reading on the situation. This is one of the most difficult things to read on for yourself (due to the emotional attachment to outcome) and that is why I recommend using the Tarot cards together with a pendulum and sealed envelops for ‘blind dowsing.’ I use a similar method for choosing between two or more lovers in this vlog.
STEP 1 – Write the words ‘Stay’ and ‘Go’ on two separate pieces of paper. Stick the ‘Stay’ and ‘Go’ pieces of paper in separate envelops. Seal the envelops and mix them until you don’t know which note is in which envelope. Continue reading