“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” ~ Rumi
The above quote by Rumi, and also working in-depth during last weekend’s Tarot conference with answering the Big Questions with only one card under Rachel Pollack‘s wise and guiding eye, made me want to explore a One Card reading for myself about the one question that should concern us more than any other when it comes to love relationships:
What is my main block to love right here, right now?
I chose to work with the Sirian Starseed Tarot for this and pulled the 7 of Cups.
What does the 7 of Cups tell me about my main block to love right now? Off the top of my head, I can think of three things: Continue reading
The 7 Relationship Truths Tarot spread will reveal where you stand with these 7 (not always so) obvious relationship truths. These are fundamental truths that most would agree on but we so easily forget all about in our day-to-day existence…
The other day, I was contemplating the sense of communion that accompanies the 3 of Cups. This led me to examine some of my own blocks to being fully in a state of communion with the All that Is and people around me. This may sound like a painful undertaking but I was motivated by an optimistic sense of curiousity of where it would take me, as well as by an inner knowledge that some healing would take place.
I pulled three further cards that helped me hone in on specific blocks: 2 of Cups, Ace of Coins and The Sun – all reversed, which in my case was indicative of blocked energy/emotions.
My card of the day, the reversed 3 of Swords, ’rounds up’ all these blockages by taking me deeper into the process of loss and grief. This process is universal and applies to all emotional blocks. I have posted a video on the five stages of grief below, and I urge you to watch it even if you don’t feel that this applies to you right now, because the truth of the matter is that we all exeprience all five stages most days. Learning to identify them gives us the ability to get to the resolution more quickly, or to at least be aware of why we are stuck in patterns of irritation or constantly trying to fix things.
As those of you who have been following this blog will know, I have started using EFT to free up emotional blockages. EFT is an energy meridian technique that utilises the same points that are used in acupuncture treatments. Rather than puncturing the skin to stimulate them, EFT teaches a simple technique for tapping on these points. This technique can literally be learned in minutes, and once you know the ‘basic recipe,’ you can tap on pretty much anything. EFT can also be used for programming and affirming positive traits, states and qualities.
I love the synchronicity of pulling the reversed 3 of Swords today, the day after Saturn moved into Libra. Saturn (the planet of limitations, karma, perseverence, discipline etc) in Libra (the Zodiac sign of relationship harmony, poise, peace, charm, diplomacy and friendliness). Saturn is in Libra until some time next year, so we’ll have plenty of time to sift through our relationship issues. Those of us who are willing to do the work will reap massive benefits from transformed, deeper and more meaningful relationships. Saturn is a hard task master but he is known to reward those who show him due respect.
Affirmations: Grieving is a natural process. I accept that loss is part of life. I allow myself to feel my emotions fully before releasing them. My emotions give me valuable information. I thank the wisdom of my body for showing me where the grieving process has become stuck.
Today’s spread is something I came up with upon reflecting on the fact that a breakdown in communication so easily leads to disintegration and recycling of issues in a relationship, i.e. there is no growth because one or both parties go with the ego reaction and attach loads of old emotional baggage to fresh issues.
The central card in this spread, the 5 of Cups (loss), represents the central objective issue that lead to the breakdown in communication in the first place. This actually happened and it cannot be denied.
Below the central card, to the left we find the card that represents person one’s subjective understanding of and initial emotional response to what happened. Diagonally crossing it is the card that represents the challenge that person one needs to meet in order to detach enough to reach a state of multilevel positive disintegration. The lower right hand cards reflect the same space for person two.
The cards above the central card represent the new, more objective and authentic (aligned with the Self) understanding that both parties respectively will have gained after applying detachment and a positive growth dynamic.
The card on the far right represents the next step on the relationship journey for the couple.
This spread has the potential to cut to the chase if you have realised that you do not actually need to place blame on the other person or decide who was right and who was wrong. Isn’t what really matters if you can agree on a new and better way of relating? “Are we done yet?” is a very good question to ask when you realise that you are chasing your own tail in an argument that is quickly going nowhere.
I will leave the interpretation of this spread to you, dear reader, but I will say that I found it most enlightening and I hope you will too!