Arguments may be relationship killers but they cannot be avoided all together, so it is best to have a strategy for how to do it.  Ideally, both people should have the same strategy but even if that is not possible, you may find that implementing the steps below, will help calm and heal many situations that would otherwise get out of hand.

Pick your battles. In other words, don’t sweat the small stuff. Arguing about small stuff is perceived as nagging and someone who is perceived as a nagger doesn’t get listened about the big stuff either.

Remind yourself that you love the person in front of you. In order to speak from a place of love (yes, it is possible even when you are angry!), you can try placing your hand over your heart before you start speaking. Continue reading →