No lengthy introduction needed for this spread. We’ve all been there… We thought he was the One and it turned out to be just another lesson. Sometimes it’s worth not looking over your shoulder but certain relationships leave you thinking there’s a lesson you were meant to get. If that’s how you feel then that’s your truth and you need to honour it… Tarot to the rescue! Continue reading
He moved on and is flaunting his new girlfriend on Facebook but you are still missing him. There is a hole in your heart and it is shaped like him. If anything the pain seems to grow sharper and you have no idea how to let go of the feelings you still have for him.
Is this you?
The Tarot can help you understand why you are still hooked on your ex and what you need to do in order to let go.
Here is what you do: Continue reading
First of all, congratulations on being single again! It really isn’t as bad as you think it is. If you were to objectively weigh the pros and cons right now, you’d realise that you’re probably better off without him or her… but let’s save that one for another day. After all, the reason you’re reading this post is that you want him or her back, right?
So let me break it down for you in simple do and don’ts:
Don’t call him/her to plead about getting back together: The first thing you need to know is that there is nothing as unattractive as desperation. No amount of pleading or reasoning in the world is going to bring your ex back – in fact, it will only drive him or her further away! However, if you’ve already done this, you may still be able to salvage your relationship so stop cringing at your own behaviour, take a deep breath and resolve to move forward in a more dignified manner. Continue reading
Even those of you not overly familiar with the Tarot are guaranteed to have seen the Death card on the big screen or TV at one point or another, as it’s a popular ‘spooky’ choice among film makers of all genres – It even makes an appearance in an episode of the Simpsons. The fact that it’s the 13th Arcana and is almost always turned over by either a half crazed crone or mysterious gypsy with darts for eyes helps too, of course.
A post by a fellow relationship blogger about her own personal struggles got me thinking this morning. We all struggle to let go when a relationship ends – especially if we didn’t see it coming. There’s nothing for ripping the still beating heart out of your chest like being dumped out of nowhere. Yes… I’ve been there too.
That’s when we begin our journey through the five stages of grief:
The Anger stage was funny for me, I found it easier to be angry on behalf of other women than being angry on behalf of myself. I found idatedhatdouche.com wonderfully therapeutic. I suspect that stage would have been more short-lived had I been able to fully own my anger straight away…
Depression hit after a long-ish bout of bargaining. Part of the bargaining process was trying to make sense of everything that happened. As if finishing that big jigsaw would somehow give me enough peace of mind to finally accept what happened.
The process of grieving a loss is not always linear in nature. We dip in and out of the stages. Continue reading