No lengthy introduction needed for this spread. We’ve all been there… We thought he was the One and it turned out to be just another lesson. Sometimes it’s worth not looking over your shoulder but certain relationships leave you thinking there’s a lesson you were meant to get. If that’s how you feel then that’s your truth and you need to honour it… Tarot to the rescue! Continue reading
If you are nursing the pain of a broken heart, take comfort in knowing that things could be worse – at least you still have a heart. (from the Zombie Tarot LWB)
When the Zombie Tarot arrived through the post yesterday, I was delighted to discover that the LWB (Little White Book – card sized booklet containing card meanings) included a relationship Tarot spread.
Like with everything else in the Zombie Tarot box set, a lot of thought has gone into the creation of the LWB. It is made in the same style as the deck is an absolute joy to read. How often can you say that about a LWB?! I usually bin mine! Here is the LWB opened to the page with the relationship spread:
And here is the side of the inside of the box:
All these details make it very hard not to fall in love with this deck and if you already have a thing for Zombies this may well quickly become your favourite working deck.
The relationship spread looked promising. I like heart-shaped layouts. Some of you may recall my ‘Heart of the Relationship Tarot Spread‘ which is a larger spread (14-15 cards).
The Zombie Tarot Broken Heart spread can be used for a relationship that has just ended but there is hope of getting back together or for a relationship that is going through a rough patch. It gives a good, thorough overview of the relationship without going into too much detail if you struggle with large spreads. Continue reading
The cards will never tell you what to do but they can help you gain insights about the best way forward. Deciding to leave a long term partner or spouse is a massive step and some people deliberate for years before they make their move. Any guidance the Tarot can offer before making that final decision is gratefully accepted.
Very often, one person feels that they have outgrown the relationship because they have done a ton of work on themselves: taken responsibility for their lives, let go of the past, learned to communicate without blame, quit addictions and other destructive behaviour and started to make better choices in every way. However, their partner is not ready for change. This can be very frustrating, especially after years of trying to make it work but getting nowhere.
I like to use a spread I call ‘Should I Stay Or Should I Go?’ for this. It takes into consideration a third option. Yes, there is a third option. It’s called ‘Staying for now in awareness.’ It’s not fence-sitting out of indecision, it’s actively deciding to stay and to accept things the way they are. Continue reading
First of all, congratulations on being single again! It really isn’t as bad as you think it is. If you were to objectively weigh the pros and cons right now, you’d realise that you’re probably better off without him or her… but let’s save that one for another day. After all, the reason you’re reading this post is that you want him or her back, right?
So let me break it down for you in simple do and don’ts:
Don’t call him/her to plead about getting back together: The first thing you need to know is that there is nothing as unattractive as desperation. No amount of pleading or reasoning in the world is going to bring your ex back – in fact, it will only drive him or her further away! However, if you’ve already done this, you may still be able to salvage your relationship so stop cringing at your own behaviour, take a deep breath and resolve to move forward in a more dignified manner. Continue reading
To date or to wait often becomes the big question after you’ve broken up with someone you are still hoping to get back with.
There may be no communication between you at all, yet the hope of having him back lingers. But not having a Miss Havisham fetish, you don’t want to put your life on hold indefinitely and you may miss the social aspects of dating.
First of all, I’d like to point out that there is no right or wrong here. You have to do what is right for you. Some may have moral objections about leading the other person on if you start dating without serious intent. Just be clear about your intent and no harm can be done between two consenting adults! Continue reading