Category: Commitment

11 Keys – An Advanced Love Tarot Spread

11 Keys an Advanced Love Tarot Spread with Houses by Lisa Frideborg Lloyd

This advanced Tarot spread is inspired by years of reading the 9 Square intuitively, observing patterns and listening to the whispers of the cards themselves. In the past few months, I have felt a need to add two cards to the square when doing love Tarot readings… and then one day the penny dropped: each of the card positions correspond to Major Arcana 1-11, with the Hierophant as the central card and Justice as the outcome. In other words – perfection in terms of looking at long term potential with the Hierophant and Justice being two of the main marriage cards.

Roughly then you get the following positional meanings: Continue reading

Why your ex gets in touch just when you’ve found someone new and how to know what he is after

love triangle

This post was inspired by a question from a reader. She wanted to know why her ex’s always seemed to get back in touch every time she had found someone new. My reply was:

Oh, it is simple. They feel the energetic connection fading and they want to know why – on a subconscious level of course… but they’ll still act on it!

If you stayed emotionally attached to your ex and found it hard to let go after the break-up, it is likely you had a push-you-pull-me relationship varying from slightly to highly co-dependent where he was in an avoidance pattern (expressed as commitment phobia) and you were in pattern of neediness (often based on abandonment issues). Continue reading

“Will It Last?” Tarot Spread

bride and groom on beach

Although it is best to be in the present moment as much as possible, we all reach a stage in our lives when we need to look ahead a bit in order to come up with a plan for our lives and relationships. Moving in together or starting a family usually takes a bit of forethought and it is natural to wonder if the one we’re with will be the one we settle down with.

The spread below is an adaptation of the 7 card ‘Will it last?’ relationship spread found in the Shadowscapes Tarot companion book by Barbara Moore: Continue reading

Tarot Spread

Should I Stay Or Should I Go?

The cards will never tell you what to do but they can help you gain insights about the best way forward. Deciding to leave a long term partner or spouse is a massive step and some people deliberate for years before they make their move. Any guidance the Tarot can offer before making that final decision is gratefully accepted.

Very often, one person feels that they have outgrown the relationship because they have done a ton of work on themselves: taken responsibility for their lives, let go of the past, learned to communicate without blame, quit addictions and other destructive behaviour and started to make better choices in every way. However, their partner is not ready for change. This can be very frustrating, especially after years of trying to make it work but getting nowhere.

I like to use a spread I call ‘Should I Stay Or Should I Go?’ for this. It takes into consideration a third option. Yes, there is a third option. It’s called ‘Staying for now in awareness.’ It’s not fence-sitting out of indecision, it’s actively deciding to stay and to accept things the way they are. Continue reading

Commitment Phobia

A Commitment Phobia Tarot Reading

Any of you who have dated a man (or woman) with commitment issues will recognise the central pattern in the reading below. To deal with the shock and chaos created when a commitment phobic splits, you can use a spread I created a while back - The WTF?! Tarot Spread.

Commitment Phobia

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