This post was inspired by a question from a reader. She wanted to know why her ex’s always seemed to get back in touch every time she had found someone new. My reply was:
Oh, it is simple. They feel the energetic connection fading and they want to know why – on a subconscious level of course… but they’ll still act on it!
If you stayed emotionally attached to your ex and found it hard to let go after the break-up, it is likely you had a push-you-pull-me relationship varying from slightly to highly co-dependent where he was in an avoidance pattern (expressed as commitment phobia) and you were in pattern of neediness (often based on abandonment issues). Continue reading
Although it is best to be in the present moment as much as possible, we all reach a stage in our lives when we need to look ahead a bit in order to come up with a plan for our lives and relationships. Moving in together or starting a family usually takes a bit of forethought and it is natural to wonder if the one we’re with will be the one we settle down with.
The spread below is an adaptation of the 7 card ‘Will it last?’ relationship spread found in the Shadowscapes Tarot companion book by Barbara Moore: Continue reading
The cards will never tell you what to do but they can help you gain insights about the best way forward. Deciding to leave a long term partner or spouse is a massive step and some people deliberate for years before they make their move. Any guidance the Tarot can offer before making that final decision is gratefully accepted.
Very often, one person feels that they have outgrown the relationship because they have done a ton of work on themselves: taken responsibility for their lives, let go of the past, learned to communicate without blame, quit addictions and other destructive behaviour and started to make better choices in every way. However, their partner is not ready for change. This can be very frustrating, especially after years of trying to make it work but getting nowhere.
I like to use a spread I call ‘Should I Stay Or Should I Go?’ for this. It takes into consideration a third option. Yes, there is a third option. It’s called ‘Staying for now in awareness.’ It’s not fence-sitting out of indecision, it’s actively deciding to stay and to accept things the way they are. Continue reading
Today I thought I’d share a reading based on a seven card commitment spread from the book Taking the Tarot to Heart: Fun and Creative Ways to Improve Your Love Life by Mark McElroy. “Taking the Tarot to Heart” will appeal to readers who prefer to use the Tarot as a brainstorming tool for interpersonal growth and decision-making rather than traditional fortune telling.