Before I delve into the delicate topic of women suffering from pain during sex, let me talk about what this article is not about; It’s not about BDSM or any kind of consensual pain-inflicting kink. Those of you who are hoping to for anything to get yourselves off with, are probably better off reaching for that worn and tattered copy of Fifty Shades of Grey.
It is estimated that somewhere between 10-20% of all women suffer from painful sex. While there are multiple articles online listing possible reasons for pain during intercourse, very few of them discuss this topic as an issue that concerns both parties, even though the pain can often be avoided by the man simply being better informed about a woman’s need for foreplay. While the man is rarely the root cause of the pain, he is responsible for making sure that the woman is not only pain-free but actually enjoy being intimate with him.
There are number of possible causes for discomfort and pain during intercourse and they can be divided into two main categories: Continue reading
Chemistry. You either have it or you don’t. To most people, it is the key deciding factor of whether they will pursue a romantic relationship with someone or not. The problem is that it’s not always straight forward. Sometimes you feel the chemistry and the other person doesn’t – and vice versa. It truly doesn’t matter if he or she ticks all the boxes on your ‘wish list’ – if the chemistry ain’t there, it ain’t gonna happen!
Today’s vlog introduces the principle of Elemental tension as the key underlying factor for sexual chemistry in the cards. I cover the Elemental difference between relationship harmony (nice for friendship) and sexual tension (totally necessary for chemistry). Once you have this easy-to-learn principle down pat, reading for chemistry will be a doddle. If you enjoy the video, please hop on over to YouTube, click like and subscribe. Thank you! Continue reading
Glad to see you here, man! That means you’re waking up. You’re rubbing the sleep out of your eyes and as you do, you begin to see clearly that you’ve been had by patriarchal misogynist propaganda. It never was she that needed lessons in how long to wait before having sex to not appear ‘slutty’ – it was you who needed to learn to open your heart and see sex as an expression of love.
There can be no sex without a lesson about love. Just because you have refused to see it in the past doesn’t mean the opportunity for growth and learning wasn’t there. Those of you who used to lead a zombified existence of ‘hit and quit,’ blaming the woman for being slutty and justifying treating her like dirt are now starting to wake up to the pain of your own cold-heartedness. Continue reading
There is a lot of misinformation out there because female alphas are so often labeled ‘bitches’ by jealous beta males and females. I have compiled a list below of what I consider to be the true main alpha female traits. The true alpha female is no more a bitch than the true alpha male is a narcissistic jerk.
The true role of all alphas, both male and female, is to be the leader of the pack and to protect those in their care. The proportion of alphas among humans correspond directly with the proportion of alphas among animals – for evolutionary reasons. Continue reading
It could be argued that all sexual activity is sacred. It’s part of the human experience and as such (unless it is abusive) it is sacred. However, the problem with sex is that most people engage in it without being mindful of their whole beings, focusing almost exclusively on achieving an orgasm. It is natural to focus on a built-in drive to satisfy a physiological ‘itch’… but is it healing and does it have anything to do with love and spiritual development?
Sex that leaves us feeling drained and fragmented is far too common these days; we have forgotten how to stay tuned into our bodies and fully present during the act. Tantra, which falls under the Sacred Sexuality umbrella, gives us tools and techniques for re-uniting with our bodies and bringing our whole being (mind, body and spirit) into the love-making.
But Tantra is not for everyone and much that is called Tantra in the West really isn’t Tantra at all. Having looked into Tantra and Sacred Sexuality, I feel that these 7 key points facilitate Sexual Healing in the truest sense: Continue reading