How do they think, the sociopathic married males who go hunting for prey on dating websites and in nightclubs when away on business? And who on earth would be stupid enough to fall for them?
The slick seduction expert pulls out all the stops. He will wine and dine and be very generous when tipping. He wants to impress and overwhelm you to make you weak at the knees. He will feel different to your average Joe – larger than life, unafraid. He’s the natural born risk taker and adrenaline junkie. For a while, he will make your life glitter and sparkle… Your hopes and expectations will start to soar and the penny drops: he’s married – you’ve been played.
The more intelligent he is, the more of a challenge he will like. Don’t assume he will go for weaker or dumber prey. The stronger, more attractive and more confident you are, the more fun the sport for him – he just has to raise his game and be more inventive… perhaps invest a bit more money too. He doesn’t mind the latter… flashing the cash is part of the fun for him. It makes him feel powerful.
If I were to outline what happens inside the head of a Shark in 5 Easy Steps, it goes a little something like this:
* Locate a female who will look good on your arm and be entertaining
* Meet up with her and learn about her needs and expectations
* Make sure that everything you say matches those needs and expectations
* Make her feel truly appreciated and start hinting at a future together
* Do whatever it takes to lull her into a false sense of security: lie, embellish, show pictures of your children, talk about ferrying the kids about, share loads about your own childhood, use words that create an emotional connection (the word connection works really well), call your wife ‘the ex’ etc etc
The fun obviously works much better and lasts for longer if you don’t live on each other’s doorsteps. He can then be very inventive about why you can’t meet the family or close friends quite yet… He will make sure he is away on business a lot at opportune times too.
If you’ve fallen for one of these characters, don’t feel bad. You didn’t deserve it. You weren’t weak, stupid or vulnerable. It didn’t happen because you didn’t love yourself enough or were lacking in confidence. It happened because the opportunity arose for him and a natural predator will always jump at an opportunity. You just happened to be the prettiest one he could pull that day!
He will swiftly move to the next prey once his cover has been shot. Will he change? No chance. He’s a shark in a man suit, baby!