Victor Hugo speaks of soul mate love more beautifully than any other author I know. When Marius and Cosette have that first meeting and they first kiss, they become one as only soul mates can. Both are innocent, pure and open to love, which enabled the following dynamic to develop:
These two hearts poured themselves out to each other, so that at the end of an hour, it was the young man who had the young girl’s soul and the young girl who had the soul of the young man.
But sometimes one person is open while the other is jaded and then the pain of love becomes almost unbearable. Yet of this too, Victor Hugo speaks beautifully:
You who suffer because you love, love still more. To die of love, is to live by it.
Most likely, you will not die physically after all. But you may want to look at what is left after you have ‘lost’ a soul mate whose heart wasn’t open. In truth, you cannot lose a soul mate more than you can lose your own soul, because you belong to the same soul family and will be reunited in the life-between-lives and one day you will graduate Earth School altogether, spending the glorious NOW together in a state of bliss.
The Tarot can help you gain perspective on what you thought you lost, what you gained and what the overall lesson was. Simply pull one card for each of these three:
When the pain of the perceived loss gets unbearable simply keep surrendering on the out-breath. Know that this surrender serves a higher purpose. You are not surrendering to a state of feeling/being crushed for no reason. You surrender so that every last trace of any blocks to love will fall off you like the last sticky bits of the chrysalis before the butterfly spreads her wings.
Use the in-breath to breathe back your own soul essence into your aura. While merging energetically with the beloved is sublime when both people have surrendered to love, it is nothing short of unbearable when love is unrequited.
To die of love is to be truly reborn.
You can read about my own experience of ‘losing’ a member of my soul family that I instantly recognised HERE. There is pain but there is also infinite gratitude. Without a meeting that completely shattered my defences, I would not be able to shine the light of compassion… and what’s more, I wouldn’t know myself fully.