If you’ve done more than half a dozen readings for yourself, you probably know by now that Love Tarot readings are the most difficult ones to do.
Any time at all that we are attached to the outcome, it gets trickier because we tend to see what we want to see… either that or we catostrophise! When the reading is about the one we love (or lust after!), we would have to reach the spiritual maturity of a Zen Master to not be at least a wee bit attached to outcome. I’m still working on that one, in case you were wondering.
So I guess this really begs the question if it is possible to read for yourself about love at all? Good news: Yes! And especially if you follow the steps below:
1. Create sacred space. This includes turning off any electrical equipment which may cause disruption and letting anyone else who lives with you know that you need some alone time. You may also wish to light a candle, some incense, take out your favourite crystals and play some soft background music but this is all optional. What’s important is that you make sure you are grounded and centred before you begin.
2. Write your question down. Not only the actual question but the date so that you can keep track of your readings. Not only does this improve objectivity but it also serves as a learning tool. The mind is a slippery so-and-so… It can even trick you into believing that your original question has changed because of the cards laid out before!
3. Write down how you feel about the whole situation as well. There is a therapeutic element in this and it clears some of the mental debris before the reading. Also, it might be a good idea to take a stab at on which side you may err. Most of us err on the side of not taking our rose-tinted glasses off before the reading but if you know that you tend to be cynical about your prospects, be honest with yourself and write this down too.
4. Choose a spread appropriate for your level of learning. As you may have noticed there are literally dozens (over 60!) of Love Tarot Spreads here on the Love Dove site to choose from. However, do avoid the bigger spreads if you are only just starting out on your Tarot Journey. The Quickie is good for clear guidance, as is the Desire-Action-Outcome spread. Or you may just want to try a simple Past-Present-Future 3 card spread.
5. Write the spread down and document it with a diagram/picture. This is absolutely crucial because it will give you a whole different experience compared to just allowing your thoughts to whir in your head. Also, don’t be afraid to pick up a Tarot book or browse for card meanings online if you get stuck. If there is a companion book that comes with the deck, I often use the card meanings included in that when I read for myself. Yes, even professional Tarot readers need a nudge in the direction of objectivity when reading for self!
6. Wait. That’s all (frustrating, I know!). Unless you did a reading with action advice, in which case you take action. But mostly it’s about resisting the urge to do another reading really soon after. The cards don’t take kindly to this and this is why I recommend waiting two months before reading on the same topic unless there has been major change/forward movement.
7. Know when to admit defeat. If after you have written the whole reading down, along with your interpretation, you still feel that you don’t know what the heck is going on in the cards, it’s time to contact a professional reader and ask for a reading.