He moved on and is flaunting his new girlfriend on Facebook but you are still missing him. There is a hole in your heart and it is shaped like him. If anything the pain seems to grow sharper and you have no idea how to let go of the feelings you still have for him.
Is this you?
The Tarot can help you understand why you are still hooked on your ex and what you need to do in order to let go.
Here is what you do:
Separate out all the court cards and choose the one most which represents your ex. It could be the one that looks most like him or the one with the same star sign… or it could be the one with the most similar characteristics. For instance, if your ex was an incurable flirt and you broke up over infidelity, the Knight of Wands might be a good fit.
If you don’t know which one to pick, check out 8 Types of W*ankers for a bit of light relief. It’s OK to laugh about it all too – in fact, the more you laugh, the quicker you’ll move on! If you still haven’t found the perfect match after reading this, email me and I’ll tell you which court card to use
Don’t be afraid to enlist an honest friend for help with this reading, so you have someone to brainstorm with for ideas on how to move forward. He or she don’t have to be expert Tarot readers.
Let’s say you dated a Scorpio and feel that the Scorpio Knight of Cups is a good match:
You may also feel that he is a good match because he was quite literally your Knight in Shining Armour for a while.
Shuffle the rest of the deck, cut it and fan the cards out. Randomly choose three cards. Lay the first card out across the Knight of Cups.
Card 1 represents the emotional and energetic hook your ex still has in your heart, gut or solar plexus.
Card 2 represents what you need to let go of now. This could represent a thought pattern or habit.
Card 3 represents what you need to introduce into your life. The Universe abhors a vacuum and old, unhealthy habits need to be replaced with new, healthy habits.
Use a deck with fully illustrated pips such as the Witches Tarot above and allow your imagination to guide you (i.e. don’t rely too heavily on traditional interpretations).
SAMPLE READING – LETTING YOUR EX GO
1. The 6 of Pentacles. You feel cheated because you were given this shiny present and you’ve never been happier. Then someone came and took it away, touching on deep childhood wounds. Perhaps you were made to feel as if you didn’t deserve the gift of love. Examine the deeper underlying emotions and ask yourself if the thoughts that you entertain now and which are causing so much suffering are actually true.
2. The 7 of Pentacles. You need to stop waiting around for good things to happen or for him to come back. Not every seed that is planted bears fruit. Your relationship didn’t blossom into something that you were able to enjoy long term. That doesn’t mean you have to stick around and watch someone else pick the fruits on Facebook or down at your local.
3. The Chariot. Well, if there ever was a moving on card, this is the one! Now is the time to focus on your own goals and achievement. This card reminds you that you are powerful and in control of your own life. It reminds you that if you can dream it, you can achieve it, so get busy planning your future.
Regardless of which card you got in position three, the following questions will be helpful in terms of moving forward:
Where do you see yourself a month from now? A year from now?
Imagine where you want to be in vivid detail and feel how good it feels.
How can the information provided by the card in position 3 help you move forward?
List three practical things you can do to make your dreams come true. Make at least one of them something you can do on a daily basis.
Example of 3 practical things based on the message of The Chariot (which is all about self-confidence, success and empowerment): Put together a 5 year plan, practice daily positive affirmations, rise early and dress for success.
Yay!, now you have an action plan. Stick to it and watch yourself grow stronger and more confident every day!