Dating the Queen of Cups

I’m very sensitive in real life. I will start to cry if someone is crying, even if it’s not appropriate. I have that thing in me, a weakness or sensitivity.
~ Jessica Chastain

Highly sensitive, receptive, gentle, imaginative and intuitive, this fragile flower of a women epitomises femininity to many men. Because of her extreme receptivity, it becomes easy for others to project onto her their ideals as well as their dislikes.

She can find it difficult to assert herself in a direct manner and often resorts to dealing with people passive-aggressively, or by other forms of manipulation.  B*tch Please (reversed Queens) might come in handy if you want to know more about the shadow aspects of this Queen who can be a lot more vicious than she appears.

Pros: She lets you speak your mind and you feel truly listened to.

She is easy-going and will go along with pretty much whatever you fancy.

She cares when you stub your toe. The Queen of Wands might laugh at you but the Queen of Cups will be there to rub some Arnica cream on it and kiss it better. (Or she will if it doesn’t happen in the middle of her favourite soap opera, in which case she’ll be too absorbed to even notice.)

You’ll always feel like you’re the man in the house.

Her hunches are often spot on, so if you learn to trust them they can help you with anything from advancing your career to seeing the doctor before the cancer spreads.

Cons: To get her way without having to speak her mind, she learns to manipulate others emotionally at a young age.

Tears are her weapon of choice.

It can be tricky to get to know her because of her somewhat nebulous nature.

She prefers daydreams and flights of fancy to housework and easily forgets where she puts things. It helps if you have had police search training if you plan on building a home with the Queen of Cups!

Type of date she prefers: Honestly, as long as you’re happy she’ll be happy. Just don’t take her to see a horror film if you care about her sleep at all.

How to seduce the Queen of Cups: If you truly desire to win this Queen’s heart, then make her feel like the princess she knows she was born to be.

Write her a heartfelt poem or compose a song in her honour and she will feel that you see her soul. It’s extremely important to her to feel deeply connected.

It’s all about the soul connection.

Her best match: The King of Pentacles, because he keeps her grounded. However, the Knight of Cups is the one who will win her heart. She may end up marrying the former and lusting after the latter.

Her worst match: The Knight of Wands a) he wants her body and not her soul and b) thinks she’s faking it (even when she isn’t).

 

10 comments

  1. mystereum

    Great post, Lisa! Since as far back as I can remember even as a child I have always found that use of tears as a tactic or weapon to be such a farce. They are simply doing what they’ve trained themselves to do or been trained to do using the narcissist angler fish bait of tears dangled as distraction . . . though when I encounter this damsel in distress syndrome anymore, I patiently do not interrupt them as they strategia-pout-rcry, and then leaning in after, “I hope you feel better,” and of course turn to walk away. MAN, does that face go from zero to uncry in seconds. Unless of course the teards were real and I misjudged, though that gets a “Hey!” which often drums up a convo about what is really going on.

    I appreciate your statement of the pros about her hunches being spot on and that she actually cares when you stub your toe so to speak. I find that when her hunches are spot on, it is often a good indicator that her emotional and intuitive realms are in harmony, and that she is great Counsel as she has the ability to wholeheartedly rely on her inner guidance as her inner perspective and flow are thick and rich . . . that she is fulfilled by her own value, full-on worth it in that inner “bring home the bacon” kinda way. A smile from a Queen of Cups can itself inspire confidence in oneself. Her emotional clarity goes well beyond her spoken words.

    It’s great that you are working with this character-driven series! I have been thoroughly enjoying the living psychology you bring to flesh them out each time.

  2. mystereum

    and, to clarify, my statement about the tear-tactics aspect was a nod to your expression that that kind of behavior is often passive-aggressive in nature, and not to be treated with weight and seriousness, not a quality of a Queen of Cups in a matured or higher octave way kinda of thing.

    • Lisa Frideborg Lloyd

      Very true about the mature Queen, Jordan. These court cards portraits are based on personality rather than transcendence. Being Cups heavy (no pun intended lol!) myself, I find that transcending my Watery personality is very much about integrating and having the courage to own my masculine Fire.

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts and insights on this. It’s a pleasure to read your comments and I especially enjoyed your observation about the smile of this Queen! :)

  3. mystereum

    Big :-) ‘s to Ya! Love the Cups heavy pun, especially unintended. Portraits. I like that word immensely. Much better than character studies. And, embracing your own yang and masculine Fire is coming across great. I’m similar yet work my Earth as you are working your Fire. Keep up the great work!

  4. antonrossi

    Haha nice post! Being a QoC trying to adopt some of the other Queens attitudes I see it totally. Sometimes I do not like being the QoC, it sucks, a lot of my Fire planets come out when I go into Cup mode. Also funny you say Knight of Wands is worst match, am sure he is but it is usually what we go for lol. It’s all about balance ;). (signed QoS wannabe) ;)

  5. Lisa Frideborg Lloyd

    Glad you enjoyed this and can relate, Anton. I’m mostly QoC myself (QoW wannabe!) and also finding myself involved with a KnoW :P Cupid’s having a laugh as usual ;)

  6. Gina

    This is so interesting Lisa…………I love learning about the tarot cards……..it would be interesting to use all this in relationships……..very interesting!

    • Lisa Frideborg Lloyd

      Thanks Gina. So glad to hear you’re enjoying your journey through the cards. The archetypal wisdom contained in them comes in very hand when navigating relationship spaces!

  7. Christiane

    Gosh, I feel so exposed by your description of the Queen of Cups (as a Pisces with moon in Cancer I express all those personality traits..eek!), and worst of all, I’ve also been involved with a Knight of Wands…disaster! Haha!

    Great post, Lisa! It did put a smile on my face ;)