OK, so the The Hanged Man is not the most fun fella in the deck and there is almost always a feeling of being stuck when he shows up. Trust me, I know – The Hanged Man is my Shadow Birth Card!
Because of all the difficult lessons he has brought me, I chose to feature one of the most cheerful Hanged Men out there (renamed the Hanged One) from the Wild Green Chagallian Tarot – a fabulous Majors Only limited edition deck.
But it’s not all doom and gloom and in a relationship reading The Hanged Man offers a chance of gaining a new perspective that can help move the relationship onward to the next level.
Relating to dreamy Neptune, The Hanged Man urges us to pay close attention to our gut feelings, dreams and synchronicities.
Spiritually, this is a card of surrender… of letting go and letting God. This goes for the relationship too. There is no idea to even attempt pushing for change if this is the card that describes your main current relationship theme. In that case, it is all about learning to accept yourself and your partner just as you are, warts and all. Then, when you fully accept each other, the two of you can decide on a new direction together.
Check your blame and judgment levels when this card shows up. The higher they are, the longer you will spend in the suspended limbo state portrayed by the Hanged Man.
On the other hand, the quicker you let go of blame and judgment, and allow your imagination and higher ideals to inspire you, the sooner you will be back on your feet again.
Usually, this card relates more to the inner journey of an individual than to the state of the relationship but because this person is ‘on hold’ so to speak, it does affect the whole relationship.
The real reason why we experience the Hanged Man Space every now and again is so that we can re-align with our Higher Self and let go of any limitations or fears imposed by the ego.
That said, The Hanged Man is not an uncommon visitor in readings about soul mate relationships. He can show up as a sign of mutual re-alignment in order to harmonise one’s energies with those of the beloved. Let it be known (in case you ever doubted it): soul mate relationships are not easy.
Because of its correspondence with Neptune, The Hanged Man deals with our highest ideals… and in love and romance, no one is more heavily subjected to those ideals than the one we perceive to be our soul mate. Beware of unrealistic expectations!
When The Hanged Man shows up with distinctly romantic cards such as the soul mate 6 of Cups, the 2 of Cups or The Lovers, you are urged to be patient. This is indeed the real deal, you and/or your partner just need some time to adjust, realign and open up…
Opening up to new ways of seeing love, relationships and the beloved is definitely part of this card’s lessons in a love and relationship reading. Now is a good time to let go of any fears that stem from bad experiences in the past. This is especially true if you are single and recovering from a bad break-up. Remind yourself often that you are free to create a brand new and much happier future for yourself.
Just let go of all you think you know and you’ll be OK. Sound scary? Uhu. Do it anyway!
As suggestions for bedroom play, think ropes and positions which requires one of you to be suspended. Complete surrender and trust in your partner can propel you to new heights of ecstasy.
Emotionally, if you manage to surrender, the Neptunian energy of the Hanged Man can create an overwhelming sense of Oneness in an intimate setting… See, I told you it wasn’t all bad ;)