It almost goes without saying that the Hermit often prefers his own company over the company of others but this card still has a rather interesting role to play when it shows up in love and romance readings.
If it describes the one you desire, you may find that they are either too happy on their own or too self-involved to be open to your flirtatious invites. Or it could describe someone who has chosen to withdraw in order to heal past hurts. If the latter is true, they may well come back out to play eventually – surrounding cards will tell you more.
If you are already in a relationship with someone who is going through a Hermit phase, it is important to give them the time and space they need for contemplation. Next time, it may be your turn. We all have periods in life when we need solitude in order to gain clarity, wisdom and insights.
The Hermit can also symbolise a platonic relationship or a relationship with enforced celibacy due to physical separation.
The Hermit personality may not be celibate but his sexual expression is more often than not autoerotic. A phobia for anything ‘unclean’ could be indicated.
Sexually, the Hermit has a shy, almost virginal quality and won’t take kindly to a less than considerate approach in the bedroom. If you manage to seduce a Hermit, you need to realise that his or her greatest erogenous zone is their mind. The words you use will matter and the connection you intend to establish better have depth! Soothe their nerves by building spiritual and philosophical bridges.
The Hermit card as suggestion for sexual play for a couple could include watching each other play. Or it could suggest that you are both better off with a mug of Horlicks and and a good book than trying to engage physically on that particular occasion.
Agreed long term celibacy for any number of reasons is another possibility when this card shows up in a reading.
It is quite easy for the Virgoan Hermit to become cynical and choose isolation for reasons of mistrust rather in order to gain spiritual insights.
Being connected to the Virgo Earth sign, the Hermit, although often wrapped up in deep philosophical ponderings, appreciates physical tokens of affection – more than most, in fact.